Posts Tagged ‘Los Angeles Matchmaker’
Kendra’s MOM dating again?
Fabulous! Is it OK for my mom/dad to start dating again? We have received a flood of calls and emails after our Kendra episode aired from sons and daughters around the country asking if we could please help them get their single and scared parents out there dating and engaging in a relationship. So I thought I’d blog on the topic because I truly feel that dating doesn’t have an age limit. 
Now we can’t force our single moms and dads to date, but we can help them plenty by giving them some tools and insights. Our parent’s aren’t used to ONLINE DATING, now are they? Is Online Dating OK for seniors to do? Sure, especially if there’s a tech savvy son or daughter to help with the dating site sign-up process, writing those juicy essays, and navigating the website. Help Mom or Pop out by whipping out your digital camera on that next family gathering to get some really flattering face and body shots (solo shots, not group shots) and load them on the site. If finances are flowing well, check into the local matchmaking companies in your city to see who caters well to the boomer and senior demographic. Just be sure to check the company’s rating with the Better Business Bureau to make sure it’s a reputable firm that’s been in business for a while, and maybe even offer to join in on the interview at the agency so you can help make the decision about hiring the agency. We specialize in creating successful relationship at Cupids Coach. It’s my job every day to make sure that our clients are in a secure environment and feel good about getting back into the dating world. Sometimes our parents just need a little nudge and to feel safe and that’s what we love to do. If you can tell that Mom or Dad is lonely and isn’t engaged in life, see what kind of social networking or singles gatherings exist in your community, and if there aren’t any, you can even start a Meet-Up Group of your own. That oughtta keep ‘em busy! Or for some fantastic singles party ideas, that are GREAT for the grown-up set, email me here and we’ll send you the party plans. Julie@CupidsCoach.com Love is even sweeter when it happens for mature men and women. One of my favorite clients of all time just got married in December. He’s well into his eighties! They’re like kids all over again. So, to answer your question “is it OK for my mom/dad to start dating again?” The answer is “absolutely, positively, YES”, it’s wonderful, especially if you are a part of making that happen. Sign up today and let’s talk about how to create that for your parents, loved ones or for you. www.cupidscoach.com With much love, Julie Ferman, Cupid’s Coach Stay Connected: http://www.facebook.com/CupidsCoach http://cupidscoach.wordpress.com/ http://www.twitter.com/CupidsCoach Meet us by video: http://tinyurl.com/y9tlhr3 Julie Ferman, Cupid’s Coach Awarded “Best Matchmaker” by iDate & OPW, 2010
Cupids Coach Julie Ferman advice for the week
My client, Marcy is concerned that the man she’s scheduled to meet this week is passionate about skiing, and typically heads to the mountains several times a year for quick getaways. She’d much rather escape to Cabo or Maui. She is very confused as she likes everything else about him. So she called me this morning and asked if she should cancel her date with him on Wednesday night.
Q: Julie, he’s a Skier, I’m a total beach girl. Wow, are we compatible?
Here’s what this personal matchmaker had to say about the issue:
A: “Marcy, don’t be too concerned that Russell has an activity passion that you don’t share. Not all of his travel excursions are ski trips. He just showed me photos from his recent excursion to Thailand and Singapore. You have a lot more in common that you might think; you both love exploring foreign cultures and getting off the beaten path when you travel. Absolutely go on this date. Surely you’ll discover activities that you can enjoy doing together on a typical weekend in LA or while away on vacation. Many adventures await.”
Let’s share, shall we!
I shared a cute example with Marcy that helped her put this issue in perspective. One of the couples we introduced through Cupid’s Coach had a similar situation – he’s a competitive water skier and she’s not a “boat person” and even gets sea sick on the boat dock. They’ve worked around it really well and enjoy being together most every weekend, often at the lake where he keeps his boat. She loves to cook and entertain, and she’s also a quilter. Surely a passion he doesn’t share. While he’s on the water, typically all day on Saturdays, she’s got something yummy cooking in the kitchen, listening to her favorite classical music (which he finds yawn worthy…) and she gets to work on her quilts, thoroughly enjoying the peace and quiet that his beautiful lake house provides for her. They love their romantic dinners there together and often entertain old and new friends on the deck overlooking the water at sunset. She commented to me in their holiday card this past year how surprised she was to have fallen in love with a boating enthusiast!!
I love to hear these creative solutions to what some might see as a barrier or a problem. We’re in a new age folks, wake up and smell the salt water. It’s time to keep thinking outside the box, look for ways to work around potential challenges. Remember, relationships are full of obstacles and opportunities to stretch, grow, adapt, and innovate. Practice these skills during every aspect of dating, especially early on in the initial courting phase.
My husband Gil is Venice all day today at a paddle tennis tournament, thank God, because I am enjoying my new puppy Biscuit who is nibbling at my feet, a fragrant candle is burning to my right, birdies are chirping outside, and a gorgeous breeze is floating in from the patio. I LOVE spending my morningsin this delicious way, all by myself with all one and a half million of you.
Later this afternoon I’ll head to my office to meet with clients and then I’ll enjoy the blessing that my Bikram Yoga practice is. By the way, Gil would rather have bamboo shoots up his nails than practice yoga. This evening, he and I will have a sweet evening walk and dinner together, as usual. I’m not sure we’d have survived twenty years of marriage if we were together ALL the time… 
I happen to love skiing, and yet have been unable to get away from my work to join him on the mountain trips these past few years. He takes our son Kevin with him and they love this time they spend alone together. There will be other ski trips for the two of us in the future. And maybe, just maybe I’ll get Gil to visit my family in Missouri again. And he just might be willing to give up a tennis tournament for a horseback trip with me one of these weekends. Marriage is full of opportunities to compromise.
What about you? How have you worked around activity interest conflicts?
I’d love to hear how you might have creatively dealt with this issue.
With much love,
Julie Ferman, Cupid’s Coach
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Suzanne is one of my all time favorite personal matchmaking clients, currently topping the success charts here at Cupid’s Coach. At the some-would-say-challenging age of 58, Suzanne is receiving consistently favorable post-date evaluations and she received three invitations for Valentine’s Day last month – count them, three! That’s what I call an admirable situation.
I called Suzanne this morning to pry out her secret for having such a positive dating experience, and she said she’d reveal her strategy, but only if I promised to share it with you, so here’s the share…
Suzanne’s Success Strategy, which she says works 100% of the time. – She claims it’s her mission to Make His Day. When she’s leaving a voice mail message, replying to an email, or in person on the date, she looks for ways to brighten his world and enrich his life. She said, “In other words, ask not what he can do for me or be for me, but rather…what can I be for him? What can I do for him that will Make His Day?”
“Dating” says Suzanne, “is a great opportunity to practice flexibility” as she knows it’s a skill that will serve her well once in relationship. The man she said Yes to for Valentine’s Day was Peter – he raved to me in one of his post date evaluations about how she’s always happy to drive to his neighborhood or to meet him half-way, rather than always expecting him to schlepp to her. He commented also about how refreshing it is to be with a woman who’s game for anything — the upscale restaurant they had in mind for their first date was packed, and they ended up at the deli over soup and an ice cream sundae. He was worried that she’d be disappointed, but she was happy, which made him happy. In fact, her ability to roll with the punches literally made his day.
Peter and Suzanne are seeing each other exclusively now, and I just picked up the most lovely Thank You card from him in the mail. Suzanne is doing lots right, and I’m glad to have this chance to share her success strategies with all of you.